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Seven Steps to Choosing The Perfect Wedding Ring

Amongst all of the excitement, your wedding day will fly past without you even realising it. However, your wedding ring is something that will be with you for the rest of your life, so you must make sure that it is perfect! To help you decide which ring is for you, we have devised the perfect guide to getting it right.

  1. Narrow down your choices

Your wedding ring will probably be the only piece of jewellery that you will ever wear, everyday, for the rest of your life. Having said this, you should definitely start planning  what you want before you actually hit the stores. Making these few preliminary choices beforehand will help to take away a lot of the stress and confusion, so you wont leave feeling overwhelmed. Get a good idea in your mind of the colour metal you want; which can be anything from Yellow gold, white gold, platinum, rose gold or a fusion. There are a number of jewellery brands, such as Clogau, who make weddings rings with spectacular combinations of precious metals.

  1. Give yourself enough time

Once you have established an idea of what you want, go out and start trying on your different options. You should schedule in to do this at least two months before the wedding, as you need to time to explore different styles, do your research and go back and re-visit rings that have potential. If you are planning to have a hand made, or customised ring, you need even more time set aside. Engraving alone can take up to additional four weeks, so stay organised and make sure you factor this in to your plans early on.

  1. It’s okay to be different

Don’t be fooled into thinking you and your partners’ rings need to be matching. Choose rings that reflect your individual styles, based on elements that are important to you. Don’t spend time stressing about finding one type of ring that you both like.

  1. Set a budget and stick to it

Prices of wedding rings vary massively, so you could spend anything from a couple of hundred pounds, right up to a few thousand. The last thing you want to do is find your perfect ring, only to discover that it is way out of your price range. Avoid this by tell the assistant in the jewellery store exactly what your budget it, or only look within certain price ranges online. If you are planning on getting your rings engraved, make sure you include this in your budget too.

  1. Search for a ring that fits in with your lifestyle

There’s no point in buying a ring that’s covered in diamonds if you’re going to have to take it off every morning before you go to work, so that it doesn’t get dirty, or even worse, damaged. You need to choose a band that you can comfortably wear every day; so if you use your hands a lot, choose something that is simple and understated.

  1. Think ahead

Dare to be different when choosing your wedding ring, if you want something that is on trend or a ring that represents your extravagant personality. But if you do, ask yourself if you will still want to wear it in thirty years time.

  1. Prepare for the future

When choosing your ring, try to consider the different life events that may happen in the future. If you are young, you may have pregnancy to look forward to and your weight may change. Different styles of ring are easier to resize than others. Wedding bands with channel set diamonds are tricky when it comes to re-sizing, so if this is a concern, try to choose a less detailed band.

How to Avoid Being Bride-zilla on Your Big Day

As your weddings approaching, you’re finalising the finer details in time for the big day and, naturally, you’re starting to feel the heat.

What if the wedding DJ doesn’t show up?

Did we order enough wine?

Did we miss anyone off the guest list?

The thoughts of pure panic every bride faces during those final weeks, days and hours of unmarried life…

Forget the Fear: Excitement Is Near

On your big day, confidence is the key to enjoying your wedding.

Be that bride in the centre of every picture, not hiding away from guests because you’re consciously pondering the worst.

Think you can avoid being that huffy bridezilla bridesmaids despise and hairdressers fear?

You can do it: here’s how!

Take a break

Sometimes, being over-worked, being over-tired and masses of over-thinking can be a recipe for absolute disaster.

Avoid reaching the point where you begin to despise wedding planning by taking a step back and enjoying your engagement.

Continue dating your other half- ban wedding talk from time to time… relax and remember: it’ll be alright on the night.

Talk, talk, talk!

Let’s be frank; wedding planning does become stressful. It’s important, if there’s something that’s bothering you, your friend, husband-to-be or family member: you need to get it out.

Be honest, be straight to the point but, most importantly, be fair!

Like a boiling volcano: a woman suppressing frustration at some point will erupt and, well the last thing we want is for this to be on your wedding day!

Just remember: it’s not always what you say, it’s the way you say it so keep calm and carry on.

Look the Part

So, it’s the morning of your wedding. All the hard work is done; all that’s left to do is slip into your wedding dress and marry the love of your life.

If you look the part, you’ll radiate confidence putting every one of your guests, and more importantly: your husband-to-be at ease.

Remember, shoulders back, head high and relax- you look beautiful, own it.

Believe in Yourself

It’s your big day.

Everyone who loves you, cares for you and wishes you well are on hand supporting you in your transition to married life.

All eyes are on you- in the best possible way.

Believe in yourself, stride towards the love of your life, make your vows and look forward to your bright future filled with love, care and companionship.

Don’t compromise your big day because of stress! Follow these simple steps and eliminate the bridezilla in you.

All the best and be sure to let us here at Your UK Wedding Directory know how your special day panned out!

With Love,

The team.x

How to Plan the Perfect Engagement Proposal

Every beautiful wedding and marriage should start off with a beautiful proposal but unfortunately this is not the case. It is suggested that 20% of women were disappointed with their proposal, which is not the way you want to kick start the rest of your lives together. There’s nothing worse when you and your other couple friends share stories, your engagement story falls short of magical and absolutely perfect.

That’s why Engagement ProposalDiamond Heaven has put together a guide, 10 Things to Help You Prepare For The Perfect Engagement Proposal, which looks at all aspects to asking that all important question.

But why do I need this guide? How difficult can it be? Well, what could go wrong? Simply drop on one knee and pop the question.

With that frame of mind, you’re not going to pull off the perfect proposal; especially seeing that you’ve not considered the how much planning and plotting is needed. If you’re asking someone to spend the rest of their lives with you, you’d want to put some effort into popping the question. It is one of the most stressful times in your relationship and is as difficult to coordinate as a wedding, especially without the help of your other half.

Let’s take the engagement ring as an example.Engagement Ring

Do you know her ring size? No? That’s fine, no many boyfriends do but do you know how to get it? Can you get it without her knowing? It’s not a perfect proposal if she sees it coming and nothing will kill the moment than finding the ring is too small or too big, then there’s the embarrassing trip back to the jewellers to change it. How can you get her finger measurements without her knowing?

Then there’s asking her parents, your future in-laws.

Engagement ProposalAsking your future bride’s parents permission for her hand in marriage is an aged tradition. Maybe a bit too old fashioned. That in mind, you’re most likely asking yourself, do I need to do this? This is the twenty first century, why do I need to ask for the parent’s permission? If I want to, how do i go about it? If I don’t, what’s the worse that can happen?

Most importantly, this guide covers, how to know she’s ready?

Well, how do you know? She could be the one, want to spend the rest of her life with you and make that commitment but when she’s ready. You don’t want to ask when she’s not ready as it could mean she says no or says yes but she goes into that commitment unsure. So how do you know she’s ready? What are the tell tale signs? How can you be sure?

Diamond Heaven’s proposal guide covers those points and more in a simple but detailed guide with many tips and pieces of advice to creating the perfect proposal. It is a vital tool in preparing you to ask the most important question in your life.

Capture Your Wedding On Film

Have you considered having the most wonderful day of your life professionally filmed? Have you ever thought about the best way to preserve the memories of such a special day?

Months of planning goes into your wedding day, the day arrives and you love every minute of it, but the day goes so quick and before you know it you find yourself thinking back over what happened in the day. Often you can’t remember much because there was so much going on and you hadn’t time to take it all in!

So how will you preserve these wonderful memories? There is no better way than to have your very own wedding video.

Stories will unfold during your day, some you wouldn’t even have noticed, and it’s important that these are captured, by capturing these in a wedding film it also captures the spirit of your day with it. Just imagine being able to re-live your wedding day over and over by enjoying your own wedding video which takes you on an emotional rollercoaster from tears to laughter?

Planning a wedding can be expensive, and often having a wedding videographer is last on the list, if the budget stretches that far. In contrast to this a photographer will traditionally often be first on the list. Having a good quality photographer to capture special moments is also important, but still images won’t bring your day back to life, they won’t capture the emotion as it happens, and they won’t capture what was said or heard. A still image will bring back a memory that we would have to remember ourselves, but now imagine actually seeing and hearing all that again in a true cinematic style film? Is there any comparison? A good quality photographer can often be a similar cost to a videographer, and a videographer will then have weeks and weeks of editing to create a film for you on top of the day’s videography. When this is all taken into account a wedding videographer is actually quite cost effective with the amount of work that will go into creating your wedding video.wedding videography

Wedding videographers can produce your very own feature film of your wedding day. They specialise in cinematic wedding videography. Their wedding videos are of high-definition on ultra-wide cinematic widescreen giving them a dramatic sense of occasion that this life-changing event merits. The care taken in post-production makes so much more than just a montage of clips with music tacked on; it creates a beautiful and authentic record of the day. They spend a lot of time with the post production. The editing has to be so spot on that it is as though the film clips were made for the music. The audio and visual is integrated using voiceovers and music in such a way that they themselves are married together. There is an old saying in the film industry that “all good films are made in the cutting room.”

Wedding videographers have come a long way sing the days of leaving a camcorder set up in the corner for things to develop in front of it. Those days are thankfully gone. Now there is really no limit to what can be re-produced on film. Of course, there are still different levels of video production, wedding videography companies will differ in their shooting style and quality; this often reflects in the price. Trapdoor Films provide high end quality filming at an affordable cost to suit your needs. We freely invite you to compare us to others of the same standard and their costs as we are confident of how affordable we are. If you find a wedding videographer cheaper then the standard of video production will probably reflect this. We would encourage you to seriously consider having your very own feature film of your wedding day; a once in a lifetime event; a way of not only remembering your day, but to re-live it over and over. Don’t just settle for still lifeless images, but have a cinematic wedding video to watch always and bring it all back to life!

Article provided by Trapdoor Films

Necklaces and Necklines – Bridal Jewellery

Have you got your dress? May seem an obvious question, but don’t even begin to think about bridal jewellery until you have chosen your wedding dress. No matter how certain you are, wait until you have tried dresses on and chosen your wedding gown.

Take a few minutes to have a close look. Have a close look at your wedding dress neckline and take note of its exact shape and any detailing such as folded fabric, colour and materials used in any embroidery or beaded embellishment. Link in the necklace design to this e.g. pearls look great with ivory dresses but don’t wear gold themed jewellery if the detailing on your dress is silver or diamante. How detailed is your dress overall? Wedding gowns with lots of detailing, lace overlays etc need only minimal jewellery whereas, simpler gowns need statement bridal jewellery. It is also advisable to go through this same thought process with your wedding hair accessories and link all three elements (dress + hair accessories + jewellery).

Match the dress neckline to the shape of your bridal necklace. It is always a good idea to mirror the shape of your wedding dress neckline with your bridal necklace. The benefits will be obvious when you see yourself in your wedding day photos; where a co-ordinated effect will give you timeless elegance and effortless chic. But which neckline suits which necklace? Here are a few general pointers;

    1. Strapless or spaghetti strap dresses. These necklines are very popular in wedding dresses and are great in that virtually any style of necklace looks fabulous worn with them. The thing to remember here is that bare shoulders and arms means that there is probably more of you on show than usual and you may need to consider wearing slightly larger/more impact jewellery so that it does not get lost in photographs.
    2. Halter neck dresses. It is probably best not to wear a necklace with this neckline as it tends to look cluttered and may not sit correctly when worn. Why not go for statement earrings or bracelet instead?
    3. V shaped necklines. Pendant or T-shaped necklaces look stunning with this style of wedding dress. Make sure you choose a pendant that is in proportion to your stature and personality!
    4. Round or scoop neck dresses. Echo the soft curves of these necklines with a traditional string of pearls or a single stranded necklace. The same also applies to wedding dresses with soft fabric drapes.
    5. Designer necklines. Sweetheart or more designer led necklines look best when teamed with jewellery of a similar theme. So for sweetheart necklines why not opt for a heart themed necklace?

How long should my necklace be? As a general guide the centre point of your necklace should hang down to a point half way to a third the distance between the top of your wedding dress and your collar bone / base of your neck. This though is obviously a very personal choice and, some necklace designs are meant to hang differently. Just consider how your necklace will look on your photographs.

Final considerations. At the end of the day it is your day and your choice. The advice given here is just that, advice! Choose a necklace you love, a necklace you will treasure and wear time and time again after your wedding day.

Written by Julieann from Julieann Beads www.julieannbeads.co.uk
© Copyright reserved by Julieann Beads

Wedding Hand and Nail Care

Joyce Connor, owner and founder of Brides and Beauty (www.bridesandbeauty.co.uk  is a well known skincare and makeup expert who specialises in creating top to toe beauty for brides.

Beautiful Hands on your Wedding Day

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The glow and clarity of your skin and the perfection of your make-up is all important on your wedding day, but don’t forget about your hands.  There will probably be close up photographic shots of your hands, holding the bouquet, showing off your ring, cutting the cake and clasping the hand of your new husband so don’t allow them to let you down.  Your hands say a lot about you as a person so to make sure that they look fabulous on your wedding day you should begin working on them at least a month before the big day. Regular manicures will get them into peak condition and ensure well shaped nails and beautifully soft skin in time for the special occasion. If you’re on a tight beauty budget a professional manicure the day before your wedding may be out of the question, so knowing how to do a home manicure will be of great help to you.

When doing a home manicure start by removing old polish with an acetone free nail polish remover. Rinse hands in warm water and massage a hand exfoliator all over hands and nails and around the cuticles and in-between fingers.  Rinse off and pat dry.

Apply one drop of warm cuticle oil or cuticle cream and massage around the cuticle and nail plate. Use a cuticle tool or orange stick to gently push the cuticles back and unstick them from the nail plate. Rinse your nails in warm soapy water. Regular cuticle massage during the month before the wedding will prevent hangnails forming and skin splitting around the nail.

Trim the nails, if necessary, with nail clippers rather than scissors.  Scissors tend to split the nails so I don’t recommend them. Use a soft flexible emery board to file across the top oself manicuref each nail.  File the nail in one direction only from side to centre, do not use a sawing action because this can cause the nails to split and peel, as do metal nail files. Use the edge of the emery board to smooth away any surplus bits of filed nail.

Once you have achieved the desired nail shape apply a thick layer of hand cream to hands and put each hand into a cotton glove. After 10 minutes remove gloves and massage any excess cream into hands and up your forearms.

If you wish to paint your nails degrease them first with a cotton pad soaked in an acetone free nail polish remover.

Apply a base coat to each nail from base to tip and allow to dry for a minute or two. Apply two coats of your chosen colour allowing a few minutes between each coat for the colour to dry and finish with a clear top coat.

Handy tipswedding couples hands

The month before the wedding:

    • Don’t use nails as tools e.g. removing staples, scraping.
    • Wear an SPF, minimum factor 15, when not indoors to protect hands from sun damage and age spots.
    • Wear gloves in winter to protect them from the harsh cold winds and prevent chapping.
    • Always apply hand cream after washing your hands or having them in water.
    • Regularly use a cuticle oil or cream at bedtime to nourish the cuticles. Buffing your nails is great for smoothing ridges and giving natural nails a glossy shine. It also helps to remove slight nail staining and increases the blood flow to the nail which in turn helps the nail to grow. Only buff from base to tip 3 or 4 times. Never buff the nails horizontally as this causes vertical ridges to develop by drying out the nail plate because the nails’ natural oils evaporate from the surface.French manicure
    • Always wear protective gloves to do cleaning, washing up dishes and gardening. Harsh chemicals can be very drying on the hands.

Follow these beauty tips and you will not only be prepared for the close up shots of your wedding ring but even more importantly, to give away your hand in marriage to your wonderful new husband.

Article provided by Joyce Connor, owner of Brides and Beauty

Wedding Flowers: Greenery that’s anything but green

You could be forgiven for thinking that wedding flowers and floral decorations, being “natural,” are not a primary source of environmental concern. Sadly that’s a long way from the truth. Many commercially derived cut flowers are imported from hundreds or even thousands of miles away and because of their perishable nature, they come by air. The countries where they are grown are not always as fussy about use of pesticides and other chemicals as we are in this country, so pollution from that is a serious issue on top of the air travel problem.

All this may make you take a second look the next time you walk past a brilliant display of exotic blooms in your local flower shop, and certainly may make you want to reconsider the traditional floral decorations if you’re planning a wedding. Happily, there are some alternatives that are much kinder to the planet.

Eco-friendlier flowers

A lot depends on when your wedding is to take place, but if it occurs at an appropriate time you should be able to source flowers locally, preferably grown organically.

If organic flowers aren’t a realistic proposition you can still make a significant reduction in planet damage by using locally grown flowers, perhaps bought from a local farmer’s market or nursery. This will mean you must use flowers that happen to be in season at the time of your wedding, but even so in the UK that still leaves you and your flower arranger with a good choice for the summer season, and also late spring and early autumn.

Some brides these days – especially in North America – are determined to grow their own organic flowers for their weddings. Obviously this assumes that they are planning many months in advance, but it’s a lovely idea! If you are – or a close friend or relative is – a keen gardener with a decent sized garden or allotment, and your wedding is not due to take place for some time, that’s an option you might like to consider.

Working with florists

If you use a florist, even if they do use locally-grown, organic flowers or at least import fairtrade flowers, they may still use accessories which can be hard or even impossible to recycle. For example, the green foam used by florists in arrangements – often called “oasis” – is not recyclable. The same applies to some of the other things they use like packaging and preserving solutions.

You might also like to ask them about their own approach to eco-friendliness and particularly recycling and composting: do they donate still-usable arrangements to nursing homes and other deserving causes? Do they operate a sensible composting policy for flowers that really are past it, as well as all the trimmings and cast offs?

Finally, you may feel that although not all flowers used are local and/or organic, to use a florist local to your wedding venue makes a great deal of eco-sense. As always, it’s about getting the balance right.

Doubling up

One way of conserving energy and minimising the use of flowers is to double up on the flowers used for your ceremony, with those used for the reception. Naturally if the ceremony and reception are held in the same place this is not a problem. However even if the two venues are separate, sometimes it is possible to arrange for people to transfer the floral arrangements from the ceremony venue to the reception, while you and your guests are having photographs done and getting the first glass or two of bubbly under your belts.

Another element of “doubling up” that can provide a greener solution is to consult other couples getting married at the same venue on the same day, and see if your flower arrangements and other decorations can be co-ordinated to avoid wastage. That idea may save money and certainly will be greener.

Bouquets and things 

I know that upon the bride’s bouquet hangs a whole load of tradition, not least of which is the bridesmaids’ and other girls’ burning desire to catch the bouquet as you throw it over your shoulder so they may be the next in your crowd to marry, but…!! There is no reason why your bouquet should not consist of an eclectic mix of local, seasonal fresh delights. And if you want really to be eco-chic, consider – instead of a bouquet – one single, stunning, bloom held close to your heart.

Bridesmaids do not necessarily have to carry bouquets, either, and the men do not necessarily have to have elaborate buttonholes.

For the girls, why not consider getting them to carry elegant paper fans, or pretty, handmade little beaded or embroidered bags? And then for the lads, how about a flamboyantly coloured pocket handkerchief, or a fabric rosette?

Dried or fake flowers

I’m certainly no expert on things horticultural but friends of mine who are, say that dried flowers really are stunning to look at, and carry the added advantage of being virtually everlasting. Certainly, dried flowers can be purchased from florists and other outlets, but also they can be made to measure, so to speak – provided that there is sufficient time in the run-up to your wedding. Fake flowers – not the ugly plastic type, but those made from delicate fabrics – look stunning. And these bouquets and arrangements can be taken home by the bridal party – and guests – to treasure for many years to come.

Why not go potty?

Oh, shock, horror! No cut flowers? But let’s calm down and think about this one. In many “green” weddings in North America, so I’m told, people dump the cut flower ethic altogether in favour of having all wedding decorations courtesy of potted plants.

Of course, you could cultivate your own potted flowering plants and use those as decorations. But if this is not a realistic proposition in your case, there are other options. There are companies in the UK offering to rent potted plants out for special occasions. Try keying “potted plants”+hire, or “indoor plants”+hire, into your favourite search engine and see what’s on offer. (Tip: do not key in “plant hire” … if you do you’ll get URLs for companies that rent out construction and other heavy equipment!)

However investing in potted plants to use as decorations for your wedding – on a purchasing basis, not one of rental – makes quite a lot of sense in green terms.

The huge advantage of potted plants is, obviously, that they will live to see another day. And it’s worth thinking creatively here. Potted plants, as you know, come in all sorts of shapes and sizes. So if you want to go down this route, you can think in terms of large or even very large potted plants (hired of course) to decorate your ceremony and the major areas of your reception, but then stop down to much smaller potted plants as table and other small decorations which you buy, and pass on to your guests so they can keep them going.

Top marks for topiary

One popular option for the larger plants – and one that is readily available here in the UK – is to hire topiary plants. In case you didn’t already know, these are usually evergreen trees, plants or shrubs which have been clipped and/or trained into a range of weird, wonderful and often very beautiful shapes.

Some people – wedding organisers – I know filled the church with elegant (hired) topiary plants, one at the end of each pew with others placed strategically around the area. The only other decoration was lots of white ribbon and fairy lights added to some of the topiary. I wasn’t at the wedding, but people who were said it looked absolutely stunning.

There is even a school of thought that says, get small potted plants to use in individual place settings at your reception, so that people not only will appreciate them on the day, but also can take them home and keep them as indoor houseplants – or even plant them out in their gardens, depending of course on what they are.

So whatever your choice for wedding flowers and floral decorations, make sure that your greenery really isgreen!

Excerpted from “How To Get Married In Green” by Suzan St Maur, published by How To Books, from Amazon and all other good booksellers.

Wedding Speeches: Etiquette for the 21st century

Traditionally, there are three speeches at a wedding reception. The first is made by the bride’s father or guardian; the second by the bridegroom; and the third by his best man. However, this simple pattern assumes that the bride has been brought up by two parents and today over two million people in Britain haven’t.

So now it is perfectly acceptable for speeches to be made by other people as well as – or instead of – the ‘Big Three’ – perhaps by the bride’s mother, by her stepdad or stepmum, by the chief bridesmaid, by the best girl, by a child of the bride or groom, by the bride and groom jointly, or by the bride herself. It all depends on the particular circumstances, backgrounds and wishes of the newlyweds.

Being introduced

Etiquette demands that every speaker should be formally introduced. This is not only a courtesy to them, but also a courtesy to their audience. Some guests may not know who all the speakers are, so it is both good manners and good sense for someone to briefly introduce each of them in turn, giving a little background information about them and their relationship to the bride and/or the groom.

If there is to be a professional toastmaster, he or she will be pleased to read out a short and informative intro for each speaker. If there is no toastmaster, many couples automatically ask their best man to do the honours. That’s fine, but it’s certainly not essential. Anyone can fulfil this role. Perhaps it could be done by the bride’s stepdad, if he is not going to make a speech. Or maybe a particularly self-confident family friend or relative would be willing to do the MC-ing. What matters is that a competent person should be given the responsibility for making all the official announcements and introductions and for keeping things moving on in an interesting and entertaining manner.

When the speeches are about to begin, traditionally a professional toastmaster will call for attention and silence by rapping a gavel on the table, saying something like: ‘Ladies and Gentlemen, pray silence for Mr Ben Nevis who will propose a toast to Mr Sydney and Mrs Pearl Harbour.’ If a friend or relative is acting as the MC, he or she could simply jingle a spoon in an empty glass, to gain attention, before introducing the first speaker. This announcement would probably be made in a less formal manner: ‘Ladies and Gentlemen, please be silent as Mr Ben Nevis proposes a toast to Mr Sydney and Mrs Pearl Harbour.’ It’s showtime!

Before or after the meal?

Some couples decide to have the speeches before the wedding breakfast. This allows nervous speakers to get their speeches ‘out of the way’ so they can relax and enjoy the occasion. However, most toastmasters and other wedding professionals counsel against this as tight catering schedules can be severely disrupted if speeches go on for longer than intended. Guests also tend to be more receptive to speeches after having consumed a glass or two during the meal. And if there is no obvious highlight at the end of the meal, things can tend to fizzle out as individuals and groups of people migrate to the bar, smoking areas and elsewhere. For these reasons, it is better for the speeches to take place after people have eaten.

It’s a family affair

Given the complexity of many family units and the greater independence of people today, it is becoming more and more common for others to want to say a few words on the Big Day, too. There is no traditional order for these additional speakers because their contributions are a comparatively recent innovation and etiquette has yet to catch up and form a view.

That said, most wedding experts agree that if anyone else is going to speak, it is best that they do so after the groom but before the best man, who traditionally ends proceedings on a humorous high. If the bride is going to speak, she could do so jointly with her husband, or immediately before or after him. Although there is no toasting tradition here, it would seem reasonable that any other additional speakers should propose a toast to bride and groom, and to anyone else they may have spoken of favourably – or at least they should wind up by wishing them all the best for the future.

Another point of etiquette to bear in mind is that if one or both of the happy couple are from different ethnic or cultural backgrounds, it is quite possible that different or additional people may be expected to speak – and possibly in a different order. If you are in any doubt, ask. It is important to get this right. Are there are any wedding conventions and rituals in respect to the speeches that you should be aware of? If there are, there will be scope for a fantastic and futuristic fusion of etiquette, custom and tradition.

The important thing is that the toastmaster, or the person fulfilling this pivotal role, must know in advance precisely who is going to be speaking, and in what order.

Excerpted from “Wedding Speeches and Etiquette” by John Bowden, published by How To Books. Available from good bookshops and Amazon

Words by John Bowden